Continuing to use is a direct path to problems while a life in recovery is full of new opportunities. Things that I couldn’t imagine doing when I was using are now my reality.Continue reading
Addiction is a Response to Trauma: My Halloween Story
I don’t know how a trauma in my family a few generations back might show up in my life, that is until I recently passed up buying a pumpkin. I stood in front of a beautiful pumpkin at a farm stand. It was marked half price and I stood in front of it, frozen, unable to decide if I wanted to buy it. I walked away from that pumpkin feeling sick to my stomach.Continue reading
How I loved and Lost an Alcoholic
I think conducting a formal intervention is a very important part of dealing with a loved one’s addiction. We don’t know if they are going to recover, but by doing an intervention and by sticking with the intervention process for several months, families can be assured that they tried everything they could to help.Continue reading
The Myth of Hitting Rock Bottom
Our goal with an intervention is to help someone see the consequences of their substance use, to shine a light on something that they are missing. We want to help them choose recovery at a point before rock bottom.Continue reading
Battling Addiction and Mental Health Issues
To determine how to help someone, it is necessary to hear the stories of the people around them. To find the right facility for a person in need, we need to know whether the issue is an addiction or a mental health problem or both.Continue reading
With Addiction, Short Term Success Doesn’t Guarantee Long Term Recovery
Recovery takes time. A successful plan often involves attending treatment, months of therapy, and a lifetime commitment to change.Continue reading
After the Intervention, the Expected Will Happen
Nevertheless, we have to prepare for the days following an intervention. Most of the time, the same thing happens: the person we intervened on will paint me as the enemy.Continue reading
12-Steps: From Imperfection to Perfection
I don’t know how I got to 12 years, but I do know that I stuck out going to recovery meetings; I have few that I regularly attend, week after week, year after year. My friends are in these meetings. I recognize just about everyone in attendance, and I look forward to going and catching up with them weekly.Continue reading
Aftercare: Reintegrating the Family
Returning home, after treatment, is where the rubber meets the road in recovery. Most treatment facilities have family programs where clinicians begin working with the family as soon as the patient checks in. This can be key to long-term success, for both the patient and the family.Continue reading
After Treatment: Walking Back Into Real Life
For someone to successfully recover, work needs to be done in his or her daily living situations. This takes time. There is a saying that anyone can stay sober in a treatment facility. Additional time and energy must be spend on recovery on return home.Continue reading
Inpatient Treatment: Common Concerns
I can’t go to rehab because…
I work with many people struggling from addiction. Some people need to kick start their recovery and going the in-patient treatment route is often the best option. However, it often comes with common concerns. In-patient treatment or rehabilitation offers a month away to detoxify in a safe environment.
While a 30-day program is often the recommended choice, it is also a very difficult decision to make. Jumping out of life for 30 days is not easy, but the benefits of a strong foundation for recovery that can change behavior for a lifetime is often worth the trade off.
“I don’t have time to go to rehab, I have to work”
Time away is a very real concern. Entering an inpatient rehabilitation program is essentially pausing a month (or more) of one’s life. One might be resistant to the idea of having to be away from work or their families, however addiction takes steals time from families and from work.
People often lose several hours in a day, if not entire days, when under the influence. Once in recovery people find that they have much more time to dedicate to passions, family, and work. Taking 30 days away might give someone 5 extra hours a day – for the rest of his or her lives.
“I can’t afford to go to rehab”
Treatment is expensive. There are many rehabilitation centers that are cash based or not covered by one’s insurance. However, there are many good programs that are covered by insurance.
In order for a treatment plan to be successful it must be affordable, and luckily there are several low cost or in-network facilities. A good first step when considering an inpatient program is to determine what one’s insurance benefits are, and contact a local rehab program that is covered.
It’s important to note that, in the long run, addiction costs more than treatment does. It is common to see people spending hundreds of dollars a day to keep up with their addiction. By multiplying the direct costs of one’s addiction by the number of days in a year can help put the expense of treatment into perspective. The costs aren’t just financial. One may miss opportunities at work, destroy relationships with loved ones, or experience legal troubles due to their addiction.
The Four Horsemen of Addiction: Shame, Fear, Pride, Embarrassment
When someone first considers treatment one might feel ashamed or embarrassed. Admitting one has a substance use problem, and seeking help from others can make one feel exposed. However, recovery is never done alone.
It is important to meet other people who have also decided to seek help for addiction. Addiction is isolating, and rehab allows for new connections to be made between people in recovery. These connections are important because a support system is formed from them, which reduces the chances of someone relapsing.
The idea of in-patient care can seem daunting, however in some cases it is the best option for someone’s journey towards recovery. When talking to someone about rehab try to discuss why they are resistant to the idea of a more intensive program, and gently remind them that no matter what reason they come up with to avoid rehab addiction will always be the more difficult choice in the long run.
About Adam Banks
Adam Banks is a certified interventionist and the owner of Adam Banks Recovery. After receiving an MBA from the University of Chicago, Adam built a company acquired by United Health Care. His discipline and attention to detail comes from his former career as an airline pilot, holding an ATP, the FAA’s highest license.
Today, Adam is dedicated to helping others achieve long-term sobriety. His work has guided executives, pilots, and physicians on paths to recovery. Adam brings families together through a loving and inclusive approach. Adam has authored four books on addiction. His recent work, Navigating Recovery Ground School: 12 Lessons to Help Families Navigate Recovery, educates families on the entire intervention process. He also offers a free video course for families considering an intervention for a loved one.
Adam is available for alcohol and drug intervention services in New York, Long Island, the Hamptons as well as nationally and internationally.
How Pre-flight Planning and Intervention Are Related
I liken my approach to addiction interventions to that of getting an airplane ready to fly. Just as a pilot must exhaust a list of external factors in order to fly successfully, a successful intervention requires just as much forethought.Continue reading
MBA Lessons in Recovery: Using the 12 Steps to Build Social Capital
There are 3 steps in AA that directly relate to rebuilding social capital that we broke during our addiction, steps 8,9,10. By working these steps, we rebuild the relationships that we neglected during addiction.Continue reading
6 Common Misconceptions About Alcoholics Anonymous
AA has a guiding principle, that of anonymity. This principle allows anyone to pop into a meeting, check it out and remain anonymous. No one needs to know that you went, and no one needs to know about your journey.Continue reading
Let’s talk about Ritalin and Adderall
It’s clear that long term use of ADHD medications can be harmful and addictive, especially when used by individuals who do not suffer from ADHD. However, it is a lot less clear how to solve the problem, especially since we inevitably come up against the interests of huge pharmaceutical corporations.Continue reading
Why Can’t They Just Stop Drinking?
Why can’t they just stop drinking? A common refrain said by anyone who is tired of watching someone sink down the hole of addiction.Continue reading
How To Find Free Therapy No Matter Where You Are
There is a misunderstanding around the 12 Steps that they’re only for people who want to stop drinking or using drugs. The reality is that 12-Step programs are not built around alcohol or substance abuse. Rather, 12-Step programs work by building a community around any particular condition.Continue reading